This weekend consisted of dinner with the host grandparents for my host brother's birthday (side note: birthdays are not a big deal here. I didn't even know it was his birthday until he came home from a day of studying, and he didn't even stick around very long for dinner despite it being for him - all of this followed by cake minus the song. The end.), a trip with my host mom to a former government official's garden/home (in China, they can almost be synonymous), and a night listening to live Latin jazz music - Spanish mixed with some Caribbean bongos in the middle of China sounded like a good night to me.
Views from the garden
Black swans
Some really large lilly pads
Looking at the history of the Opium War has given me a lot of insight into why China has had difficulty modernizing. Here's an excerpt from a response paper I wrote for class...
When we talked more about this in class a while later, my professor provided a personal story from just a couple of weeks ago. A fellow Chinese guy approached him on the train and their convo went something like this:
Guy: What are you reading? (intrigued that it wasn't in Chinese)
Professor: Chinese History
Guy: But it's in English.
Professor: Yes?
Guy: Written by foreigners.
Professor: Yes.
Guy: How can you read that!? How can you trust what they say?
Professor: He's a distinguished historian. He went to school, got a degree...
Guy: Do you mean to say that someone not from their native country can really write another country's history? Absurd.
Professor (to the class now): Luckily, he had a ticket for a different car and was kicked out just in time or God help me if I was stuck with him for 3 hours...
And later noted: But even after he was gone some people in the car said 'He had reason though, no?' I'm telling you, people really do think this way.
There's still strong animosity toward foreigners, creating this us vs. them phenomenon.
Which is why when people stare at me while I'm walking down the street, I have to wonder if it really is pure curiosity like my host family says, or if it's resentment. To become modern is to Westernize, to so-called "Westernize" is to reject the real Chinese values. Why can't they coexist? Why can't you adopt modern ways and merge them with traditional values?